I can't seem to come up with a neat title for this blog.

I thought I'd take a break from reading about politics and health care reform to write a new blog. So, in a matter of days (21 to be exact), Dylan and I will officially start our surrogacy journey. I am actually going to the cardiologist (Dr. Lemon) tomorrow for a check up. I already know what he's going to say: "You know, you could just adopt. I think that's the smart choice". He's told Dylan and me that at least twice now. I know he's nervous. He took care of my mom almost 30 years ago and saw what she went through and how it affected my dad.

(Awkward Story: My dad told me the story of how Dr. Lemon came out of my mom's hospital room crying after my mom had said that she knew she was really sick. The first time I met Dr. Lemon, I said 'hey, I think you took care of mom. Her name was Judy Hockett.' His reaction? A blank stare and silence. And that was it. AWKWARD!!!!!)

Either way, once I get the green light from the doctor, Dylan and I can get things started. We have to set up an appointment with a lawyer and find a time to meet with a psychologist. And then....in six months...our surrogate will *fingers crossed* be pregnant!

So, that's the update for now. My next plan for tonight is to start my political career. No joke. I sort of want to run for public office sometime in the next few years. I smell another blog a'brewin!

Be Aggressive! Be, Be Aggressive!

I WAS AGGRESSIVE TODAY! Waking up and seeing your bank account negative $1,051.17 can do that to a person. Now, before you get all worried and start thinking, "Holy crap! What is Heidi doing with her finances?"...relax. Actually, sit back and relax while I tell you the horrifying [and only slightly funny, I guess] story.

Being the responsible person that I am, I called my credit union to make my monthly car payment on Friday. Every month I pay $225.17. Sometimes more, no less. When I called to make my payment, I assumed everything was fine.

-----dun, dun, duuuun-------

Then my phone rang. The teller who took my payment over the phone told me (and I quote), "You're going to kill me". Never a good way to start a conversation. She told me that she charged my card $885.17! Of course I was upset and told her that I didn't even have that much to begin with! She apologized and said she'd reverse it and all would be splendid.

---I believed her------------

On Monday I woke up to my account being negative $448.00. I called the credit union to see what happened and sure enough, they charged me the $885.17! To make it even worse, by the end of the day I had (are you still relaxed?) 11 $35 overdraft fees (that's a lot of dough). And then...THEY CHARGED ME ANOTHER $225.17 THIS MORNING!!!!

So, I called my credit union and my other banking institution to get things straightened out. I was not pleasant toward the end of the day after talking to them. And just to prove it, here are some highlights of various conversations:

"I don't see why you're laughing; this is not funny".

"Let's try to get this figured out now because I literally have 30 bucks to my name".

"I am not paying for one damn overdraft fee!"

(Mike, I think the books you bought me for Christmas are doing me some good!)

YEAH!!!! So as of 5:00 this afternoon, I was no longer negative in my account! I'm starting to like the aggressive side of me--I get things accomplished!!!!

The start of our journey

There have been so many things that have happened in the past month that I am quite disappointed in myself for not writing blogs about them. Dylan had a blood clot (luckily he's doing much better--and I'm much better at giving him his shots), we're busy planning our California vacation, and oh yeah...we're trying to start a family!!!!

We found a very nice and responsible young woman (I just found out she's my age) to be our surrogate. I am not going to share her name yet, but once things get moving along I will talk more about her. I can tell you that she has a nine-year old daughter, a job, and a home. I work with her and she has told me time and time again that she wouldn't do this for anybody but Dylan and me.

We have all met with the fertility doctor and have a good grasp on what's going to be involved: money, lawyers, psychological testing, and a little bit of luck. I should be getting a phone call tomorrow or sometime this week from the nurse at the clinic. She's going to tell us where to go to find a good family lawyer and ask when we'd like to get started. If we could, we'd do it tomorrow. But, there's not rush and we'll be happy with whatever the outcome.

We have told our surrogate that if nothing comes from this, it's okay. No pressure. The doctor has told us that the odds of having multiples are pretty high. He seems to think that twins could be a pretty good possibility!

Until then, Dylan and I will just sit back and relax. Well, at least Dylan will be...and that's because I am making sure he's keeping his leg elevated. KEEP THAT LEG UP, DYL! AND TAKE YOUR MEDICINE!!!!